perhaps i did not take the most care in my words as i offered to a friend to add our goldfish to her backyard coy pond. perhaps i should have not said aloud that this fish would survive nuclear disaster. perhpas i should not have coveted its home thinking about a terrarium. perhaps. in any event, we buried the goldfish that lived over 4 years. the smallest that survived until it did not. we found it under it's large river rock in the tank & decided to let our boy choose how to honor it. so we did. now the river rock is atop this fish in the yard as it's tomb stone. he gets it. he sees life and death. he's touched it, and used my grandfather's july funeral in setting up this one.